Toilet VS BathTub

scream couple

A great tactic that has been suggested to married couples in counseling is to bare all and get vulnerable by taking off all your clothes in the bathroom and the wife sits on the toilet and the husband gets in the bathtub. (Kollar, C.A, 2011, p.155) I couldn’t help but laugh after reading this suggestion but the couple that did this could hardly raise their voice as they giggled at each other and their vulnerability.  So your next fight take it to the bathroom and see if it doesn’t help you scream less and talk and giggle more.


Kollar, Charles A, (2011). Solution-Focused Pastoral Counseling. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.

“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8

“Be completely humble and gentle; Be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace.” Ephesians 4:2-3

“And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32

We should have done this when I was growing up!

By Jim Petersen

In my Pastoral course at Liberty University I came across this game by Jim Petersen called Family Listening Game.  Growing up in a huge family of 9 kids you have to really talk loud and fast or interrupt a lot to get your story in at meal time.  This game allows each family member to speak and share what is on your mind and heart as the others sit and listen.  This game is not only for families; I recommend this game for team building as well.  It can be fun and very helpful with bringing those low key quiet people out of their shells.  I hope you will try this at home and work and share this game with others.

Face The Truth


Often the hardest thing to do is face the truth.  Your own reflection can tell you what you don’t want to hear.  Take a look in a mirror old or new the reflection is the truth.  We often think that little white lies will do no harm when in fact they are the reason for so much destruction.

Lies are like dominos; when one falls down it will knock down the rest in time and you will be left with a mess. Jesus said, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples.   Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:31-32).

God’s House


When you let God in your life, the home you started to build will become a palace of wonderful love through Jesus Christ.

“Imagine yourself as a living house. God comes in to rebuild that house. At first, perhaps, you can understand what He is doing. He is getting the drains right and stopping the leaks in the roof and so on; you knew that those jobs needed doing and so you are not surprised. But presently He starts knocking the house about in a way that hurts abominably and does not seem to make any sense. What on earth is He up to? The explanation is that He is building quite a different house from the one you thought of – throwing out a new wing here, putting on an extra floor there, running up towers, making courtyards. You thought you were being made into a decent little cottage: but He is building a palace. He intends to come and live in it Himself.”
C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity

Gods Beauty!


I awoke to the reality that life goes on for myself and the people I have loved.  As my life changes and I give birth to new ideas, such as a movie project, a non-profit organization and more others give birth to children and wedding plans.  I express these feelings to show joy for everyone and how amazing God is.  God has plans for all of us, even if it isn’t exactly what you wanted. God reminds me everyday that I do not know what is best for me; he does.

We will always love those we truly loved and should always wish the best for them.  Pray for one another and remember that you should always treat others with love and kindness as you would want to be treated.

As I find myself in my office more and more writing I thank God for his blessings and what he is creating through me and my fingers.  It can be lonely at times but I have my beautiful Sela always reminding me of our blessings and what life is really about; love and family.

[Hebrews 13:5] – Make sure that your character is free from the love of money, being content with what you have; for He Himself has said, “I WILL NEVER DESERT YOU, NOR WILL I EVER FORSAKE YOU,”

Package Deal

For this is the secret: Christ lives in you.  Colossians 1:27

We were all created to be like Christ and there are three responsibilities in becoming like Christ:

  1. We must choose to let go of old ways of acting.
  2. We must change the way we think.
  3. We must put on the character of Christ by developing new godly habits.

These three things are the toughest things in life you will face.  It is not always easy to take the high road.  Our old ways are not gone overnight they take constant attention to and discipline.  We all come with a past and things or people in our lives that we hold dear.  When you choose to spend your life with someone you and them are a package deal.  As long as you walk in the truth with God all things are possible.