As I was having a bible study last night I got so excited about sharing it. The first lesson went over the season of waiting and we all know what that is like but you may not call it a season. In Ecclesiastes 3:11 it says “God has set the right time for everything.” As I was reminded of this scripture it was the timing of this bible study that was amazing. I have had the DVD and book for awhile but I hadn’t set up a time to start it until a friend needed me and this was the answer God said use and he was right. I needed the lesson just as much as my friend did. God is awesome and I know I can be a little cheesy but I that’s ok, I’m excited.
As I heard the sermon about the season of waiting I looked around and said yes I have been waiting and its been difficult but look what he has done. God has given me a new home, a new church, new friends, a movie, published books, a great non-profit ministry, a new job, and he has made me more desirable as the one for the one. God knows my hearts desires and he knows yours; look around and see what he has done and smile. We all have our bad days of “Why not now?” but just remember he knows best.
When relationships go wrong it’s usually due to the inner desires of what we want versus what other person wants. We do not always understand or communicate these desires to each therefore we end up in a battle of words or silence. Here are seven biblical steps to restoring fellowship: (Warren, R, 2013, pp.127-132)
- Talk to God before talking to the person.
- What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. (James 4:1-2)
- Always take the initiative.
- Jesus said, “If you enter your place of worship and about to make an offering, you suddenly remember a grudge a friend has against you, abandon your offering, leave immediately, go to this friend and make things right. Then and only then, come back and work things out with God.” (Matthew 5:23-24)
- Sympathize with their feelings.
- As it is said in Philippians 2:4 “Look out for another’s interests, not just for your own.”
- Confess your part of the conflict.
- Jesus said, “First get rid of the log from your own eye; then perhaps you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.” (Matthew 7:5)
- Attack the problem, not the person.
- A wise, mature person is known for his understanding. The more pleasant his words, the more persuasive he is.
- Cooperate as much as possible.
- Do everything possible on your part to live in peace with everybody. (Romans 12:18)
- Emphasize reconciliation, not resolution.
- Work hard at living at peace with others. (1 Peter 3:11)
- Jesus said, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” (Matthew 5:9)
Warren, R. (2013). Daily Inspiration for The Purpose Driven Life. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.
The Holy Bible, New International Version (2008). Parallel Study Bible.